It’s not even 8am. A plate is shattered on the floor. My hand is bleeding. The dogs are scratching at the sliding glass door. Arya is crying. We haven’t eaten breakfast yet, the dishes and laundry still need to be done. My to do list is stretched to the floor. It is not even 8am and I am already feeling defeated. These are the moments I take a deep breath. This is only a chapter in my book called life.
Don’t Skip a Chapter
Every chapter of life will have challenges or tough times. Do not wish them away because of it. The chapter will end eventually, so take it for what it is worth. I sit and think about the different chapters I’ve already experienced in life. How has it gone so fast? I look back at my childhood, high school, college, and all the little moments in between. I wish I appreciated it more in the moment instead of focusing on what came next.
Maybe these thoughts are normal. Maybe they are right of passage for kids and teenagers to have. When I was a kid I would constantly say, “I can’t wait to grow up.” When I got to high school, I would say, “I can’t wait to be in college.” The same question came to my mind as a reached a new milestone in life. “What comes next?”
I know it is important to have goals. It is important to look forward to the next chapter of life. It is what keeps us motivated. But I am a firm believer that you can have goals, ambitions, and motivations, all while still enjoying exactly where you are at. Okay, you may not always enjoy where you are at. But looking back, I wish I had the mindset I do now.
Choose Your Mantra
Shortly after starting my first job in the corporate world, I found myself starting to have the mindset I was accustom to. I compared myself to everyone around me. The thought, I will be happier when… constantly popped in my head. I was never be satisfied. Even though, when reflecting on my accomplishments I already achieved, I really was happy.
That’s when I made the conscious decision to choose my mantra. Enjoy the Journey. This is a saying that struck a cord. Every time I hear it, say it, or see it, I am brought back to the right perspective on life. I came across a site that sold what they called mantra bands. Ordering my mantra band was one of my best purchases. Enjoy the journey is engraved on my bracelet for me to see everyday. Anytime I get frustrated or start to have a negative mindset; looking at my wrist changes my attitude on the spot. The mantra band puts me back on the right path. Of course, I still have goals I am striving towards. Now I just don’t let the fact that I am not there right now bring me down. I am enjoying each of life’s chapters. Whenever I do meet a goal or move onto the next chapter, I know I made the most of where I was. I always want to feel good about the closing of a chapter.
What is your mantra when life gets tough?
My Current Chapter
The first year of my daughter’s life has been full of ups and downs. So many moments I hold in my heart and never want to forget. And so many challenges we work to overcome. Seeing my baby roll over, then crawl, now walk. These are moments that I celebrate with her because she is growing up and another step closer to being more independent. Helping her through teething, her first cold, and ear infection. These are moments that I feel so helpless and exhausted as we give her another dose of medicine. But I’ll remember my mantra and take a deep breath because this chapter will not last forever.