I believe whole-heartedly everyone deserves happiness.
Happiness starts with being content with who you are and where you are in life, even if it is not where you want to be. Life is about learning, growing, and reaching your full potential. It’s about keeping the right perspective when you are going through a tough time.
Of course, tough times are a unavoidable, but looking at it as a learning experience instead of thinking the world is against you can change everything. It’ll keep you moving forward and make you stronger. This doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to get stressed or upset. It just means you’re taking responsibility for those feelings then still choosing happiness.
How To Create Happiness
Happiness isn’t something you find. It is something you create for yourself. You know yourself best and you will achieve happiness if you decide you want it. These are a few tips that have changed my life for the happier:
Starting the Day Spiritually
I start the day off on the right foot spiritually. Arya and I get ready every morning listening to christian music. We dance together and focus on God’s plans for us. God wants us to be happy and be our best selves. I keep that mindset as I start the day and enjoy the quality time with my daughter before I leave for work.
Focus on Growth
I have started re-writing my goals down every day. It keeps me focused on the bigger picture when I start getting lost in the day to day. At the end day I can ask myself, what have I done to get closer to my goals today?
Try setting goals for yourself and chasing them with everything you have inside you. Maybe your goals are personal or maybe they are career focused. Regardless of the types of goals, they are going to be work. Reaching goals is an amazing feeling that’s part of your growth and development. It can keep you motivated and striving for more.
My only caution is avoid the thought, you will be happy when you reach said goal. Just because you are working towards something, doesn’t mean you should not enjoy where you are at. Enjoy your journey! If you don’t enjoy it, remember you are the only one who can change that. Change what is in your control then change your perspective.
Lean into Supportive Relationships
Who you surround yourself with matters. Who are you calling when you have had a bad day? Who do you call when you’ve had a great day? Is that person supporting you and lifting you up and cheering you on? Are you doing the same for them?
I make an effort to call my friends and family during my commute to and from work. It is the perfect opportunity to catch up and share what is going on in each others lives. We give support, take advice, and be in each others lives even from thousands of miles away. My friends and family are so supportive and I am so blessed. Plus, I am giving extra kudos to my husband because I would not be where I am without him. He is my biggest fan and the one I go to first for everything in life.
These relationships make me who I am.
Making a list of what I am grateful for everyday keeps me focused on my “why”. My “why” is my family and the life I envision for us. My husband, my daughter, and my dogs are who keep me motivated. They help me strive to be the best me. Staying grateful helps me find the positive in tough circumstances. Changing my mindset and being grateful for everything can be challenging, but the outcome is worth it. Life is working for me instead of against me.
I created the habit of thanking God for everything that happened that day, before I fall asleep. I am grateful for the good, the bad, and mostly my “why”.
Keep Positive Affirmations
Words of affirmation is my love language, but I think everyone can benefit from kind words of encouragement. Every nice note, card, or email from anyone; I saved them and stuck them on the wall at work. It was my wall of positive affirmations and an amazing reminder for myself on the days I was struggling. A reminder people think I am great and doing a great job.
I have now even started writing positive affirmations to myself. These affirmations help encourage me to reach my goals others don’t know about. If you see positive affirmations everyday, you will believe them. And you should believe them because you deserve reminders of how great you are.
I Challenge You to Be Happy
Now it’s your turn. I challenge you to look at your life and focus on what you are grateful for. Look at where you are at in life and keep a positive perspective. Save the nice notes and write some for yourself. Go after what sets your heart of fire. Take care of the relationships that mean the most to you. Follow your happiness. We all want happiness. Some have found it. Some are looking for it. Now tell me, how are you going to create it?